Adjusting for depreciation, if you didn’t know, is an accounting term. It’s mainly used for capital such as machinery or cars or even buildings. It is built in to accounts to show the gradual lessening in value of what you have acquired. A 2007 car does not have the same purchase value as 2014 model. I think there is a danger that we can do this in relationships.
There is a great quote by Cecily, a character in the play “The Importance of being Earnest” by Oscar Wilde. She says “It is always painful to part from people whom one has known for a very brief space of time. The absence of old friends one can endure with equanimity. But even a momentary separation from anyone to whom one has just been introduced is almost unbearable.” Yes, we tend to miss people that we have just met more than those we have know for a while. We can take them for granted and they appear to depreciate in our estimation. We like the new. shiny object over the worn one.
In relationships, this is can be a dangerous thing. Whether it’s a work colleague, a business partner, a girlfriend or boyfriend or a longer a long commitment such as a wife or husband or even your childhood friends. We can start to take people for granted and as the saying goes familiarity can breed contempt. When we take things for granted we don’t give them the care that they deserve. Our attitude changes and we don’t fear their loss. Until it happens.
Relationships should appreciate in value as they age but that depends on the input of the parties involved. It may be time to review contracts in our relationships to see what you are bringing to the table. It may be time to conduct an audit to see what they are bringing to your life. If believe that life should be a continuous upward spiral built on what we continue to learn and that good that we can pass on to save time on those mistakes being made again.
It’s time to look at the people in your life with fresh eyes. In a romantic relationship, create a date night, in a business relationship create a social night, in a friendship, stop and listen.